Kegelometer

 When you see a person of the gender you find attractive, you do a number of "Kegel" exercises based on how attractive you think they are.

You can find more information on Kegels here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise

Rules:

• The scale is zero to ten; zero is a "just no," and ten is super attractive.
• Your significant other is an automatic twenty, so no one else really stands a chance. 
• Silence is golden, with a smile.

After a few days of intentional play, you'll find yourself doing this automatically without thinking too much about it.

It's a great way to promote genital & pelvic health, and feel sexy.

Wink, wink,

Pen

Celebrate Every Boner

 You never know what life might bring - or take away, either temporarily or permanently.

When you're young, getting a hard-on happens at the drop of the hat, at the slightest sexy thought, sight, or accidental touch.

A lot of young men can be embarrassed by getting a boner in public, especially if members of the gender they're attracted to are present. 

This is especially an issue around puberty, as they get hard much more frequently, and the increase in size makes it much more evident.

To be clear, in most cases, males can't control whether they get an erection or not. They can think about sex on purpose and more than likely get hard, or touch themselves to get a rod on, but try NOT thinking about sex, or not seeing something that turns you on and is right in front of you, especially when young.

As you age, getting an erection can take much more effort. Or you might be injured in an accident, or forced to take medications that derail your rail. Eating a poor diet over a lifetime clogs up the circulatory system and the hydraulics stop filling up properly or reliably. Being able to get even one more boner after the last one you had is not guaranteed in this life.

Some things I wish would change about society's reactions to a guy getting wood:

• Scroll on past: If seeing a boner is not to your taste, ignore it and look away.
• Don't tease or berate him for it. If you're verbally going to acknowledge the situation, make it a compliment.
• Make male clothing that doesn't bind that thing all up in a bunch. It would be so much better if underwear gave that bone a direction to move instead of forcing the guy to manually adjust and extremely uncomfortable cloth-bound rod because they can't stand it any longer.
• If the guy is getting wood because of external stimuli beyond his control, and is your partner, recognize that it's natural, and use it to your advantage. Smile and take that bone home, and have him work it out on you.
• Stop psychologically bashing males for their erections. The mechanics are subject to enough interference without boner-shaming.

Celebrate every boner, and be happy if the wood is good.

Wink, wink,

Pen